It takes a village to raise a child; I believe that’s the consensus when it comes to parenting. That saying is an old adage that transcends time. Parenting is tough and every day brings new challenges. With that said, I probably wouldn’t change it because it’s also the most rewarding thing EVER. I remember when I was pregnant over ten years ago, I envisioned the type of parent, I would be. It went something along the line of, no sugary drinks, bento lunch boxes, veggie loving kids, etc. I had this idea in my head about what I will and won’t do.
But the truth is, no matter how hard you try and plan your parenting style it doesn’t always work out. You just have to fly by the seat of your pants and try to do your best for you and your family. But even though parenting can’t be planned or scheduled, you can try to follow some guidelines to be the best parent you can and here are a few:
Parenting Rules to Live By – 5 Commandments for Parents
1. Admit your mistakes
No parent is ever perfect and you will make mistakes as you raise your child – and that’s okay. But you have to be able to admit your mistakes and say you’re sorry. Whenever you lose your cool, tell your child that you’re sorry so that they see it’s okay to make mistakes.
2. Have boundaries
Children need boundaries or else they’ll run all over you and you’ll end up raising entitled adults and the world doesn’t need that. Set various boundaries that work with your family and lifestyle and teach your children that they need to respect them.
3. Be confident
Parenting can take a toll on your confidence. Self-doubt and feeling like you aren’t doing enough or the right thing. A rollercoaster of emotions, one minute you’ll think that you’re killing it at parenthood and the next you’ll question everything you do for your children and family. Know that these days will happen and just be confident that you’re doing the best thing for you and your family.
4. Ask for help
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help when needed. When you don’t, you’ll find yourself drowning and eventually hating life. If you’re lucky enough to have a support system in place, use them so that you don’t have a meltdown. I am thankful for my husband, my parents, my in-laws and my siblings for always lending a helping hand.
5. Be affectionate
Don’t withhold the “I love you’s”. No matter what, never withhold love from your child as a punishment. Shower them with endless hugs and kisses and let them know how much you love and care for them. It seems elementary but sometimes life in gets in the way and we forget to appreciate the most basic things.
I have been a parent for over 10 years now and these parenting rules have been the saving grace for me and my family but most importantly, they are simple everyday rules. I know mindblowing right? Who knew.