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The Pros and Cons of Fighting With Your Significant Other

When it comes to relationships, no one likes to fight. We like the lovey-dovey phase. We want the honeymoon to last forever. But that’s not realistic.Fighting in relationships normal. Fighting with your significant other is normal. The truth is, big or small, every couple has arguments or disagreements. While it is unhealthy for your entire relationship to be argumentative, it is quite normal to fight with your partner. Here are the pros and cons of fighting with your significant other.

Fighting With Your Significant Other

Fighting With Your Significant Other


It shows you’re passionate. Love and passion that you feel for your significant other can sometimes manifest itself into a disagreement. Also, if you are passionate about whatever you are arguing about, you can end up fighting over something that would seem trivial to someone on the outside looking in.

It shows you care. If you don’t care enough to give your opinion and speak up in your relationship, then you probably shouldn’t be together. But if you are able to respectfully share your thoughts and ideas, even if they’re different from your partner’s, that at least means you care. And if you push them and challenge them to do certain things, that means you care enough to see them be successful and go to the next level.

You are communicating effectively. People who don’t fight at all are oftentimes holding back their true feelings. Having disagreements and being able to problem-solve and work through things together will allow your relationship to grow and mature.


Fighting too much. Fighting is normal. But fighting all the time is not. If you find yourself fighting all the time about every little thing, it may be time to see a couple’s therapist and talk through your issues with someone else.

Arguing about nothing. If you find yourselves going in circles just arguing for the sake of arguing, you’ve probably got a real problem on your hands. It’s one thing to have a disagreement, it’s quite another to just pick a fight.

Hitting below the belt. One thing you should never do is “hit below the belt”. The person you love and chose to share your life with should be a place of refuge. They should not be the one bringing up hurtful things intentionally. Don’t ever hit, curse at, or say something intentionally hurtful to your partner.

It is okay to fight with your partner, just remember to always fight fair! And always work through it together and make up!

Tara Carr is striving to live a totally healthy life -- mentally, physically, emotionally, and socially. Between home, work and social events, she finds release and comfort in writing. Brunch, sushi, and yoga keep her going, while her writing keeps her growing.

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