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How to heal from a breakup and avoid resentment

Breaking up is hard to do. It just is. And anyone who tells you it’s easy is lying to you. But it does get easier as time goes on You can heal from a breakup, recover from the loss of the relationship, and avoid resenting your ex.

It may be a “bad break up” or an amicable split. You may get the alleged and elusive “closure” that you think you need (and deserve) or you may not. But regardless of how the break up went, it’s bound to be tough for you to process. It’s embarrassing to have to explain to friends and family members that you’re no longer together. It’s heartbreaking to no longer have that person to call or text. And it just plain hurts as you wrack your brain trying to figure out what went wrong and what you could’ve done differently.

How to heal from a breakup

You can move past a break up without resenting your ex.

How to heal from a breakup and avoid resentment

Heal from the breakup. Instead of trying to focus on what went wrong, what you could’ve done differently, or whether or not there’s a chance for you two to get back together, allow yourself to come to terms with the breakup. The only way you can truly heal from the break up is to start to acknowledge and accept it. You have to mentally move on to slowly but surely allow yourself to heal.

Recover from the loss. Ending a relationship is actually very similar to experiencing the death of a loved one. You have to grieve the loss of the relationship in the same way you would grieve a physical loss. Allow yourself to work through the grieving process through journaling or even counseling.

Avoid resenting your ex. Keep in mind that focusing on the bad parts of the relationship won’t help you heal any faster or in a better way. It’s usually our go to bash our ex, with friends attempting to support us saying things like “You were too good for him/her anyway!”. Don’t do that. You loved that person at one point or another and some good probably came from the relationship. Even if the only good thing was it ending, try to focus on what being in that relationship taught you and how you can grow as a person.

Try to focus on self-care and your own mental health when healing from a break-up.

Tara Carr

Tara Carr is a 20-something striving to live a totally healthy life. Between home, work and social events, she finds release and comfort in writing. Brunch, sushi, and yoga keep her going, while her writing keeps her growing.

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  1. Tim

    October 18, 2017 at 12:44 am

    Hey tara,

    Hows it going??

    Just read the article and I must say its quite helpful for someone who just thrown away from their favorite person’s life.

    I want to share from my personal experience that, time is the biggest pain healer one can find.

    no matter how hard it is or how attached a person was, time takes everything away.

    again, thank you for the amazing helpful article.

    wish you more success 🙂

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